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Loving His Wife Is the Most Important Work Of the Husband and Father


The most important work of the father is to love his wife." This example of the father far outweighs any words that might be said when teaching the children. The children learn far more by example than they do by any other means. There is also the witness to those outside the family, whether they are in the Church or outside of the Church. There was a Christian who misunderstood the meaning of headship, thinking that it was being the boss over his wife and children. As a result, he didn't have much of a testimony. Yet, this man was always trying to tell his co-workers about Christ. A Christian friend counseled him to keep the fact that he was a Christian a secret because he was casting a bad light on the Church.

It is much easier to love when you realize that your spouse has Christ living within.  In fact, this Christ is the ministry within them.  And they are to think of themselves according to that ministry, that Christ, in them.  They have a sin nature.  So do you.  That is not who they are and it is not who you are.  You have sin, but you are the ministry.  We all need to discern and see the Body of Christ.  We see all the gifts, ministries, offices, and orders of the Church.  We also can discern and recognize the false.   When we see Him as He is, we become like Him.  He is a many-membered Body on Earth walking in submission the the Head in Heaven.

It is very important that a husband and wife make time for each other. Do not let yourselves become so busy that you don't have time for each other. Plan in such a way that you spend time together. This is not only true for husbands and wives but also applies to the entire family. Research shows that even having one meal a day together makes a huge difference. Children are much less likely to get into trouble, be depressed, or have any of the common cultural problems when the family has one meal together. If electronic gadgets, TVs, phones, radios, games, etc. are allowed, then those benefits are nonexistent, however. Both the father and mother need to show affection to the children and to each other. Hugs are important. Kind words are important. The family was created by God to operate in the flow of the Anointing of the Holy Spirit. That is the Love of God flowing from member to member. Talk and listen. If any member of the family stops communicating, something is wrong. The parents are responsible for finding out what is wrong and correcting it. Do things together. Take walks. Play yard games. Sing songs of worship. Pray together. Talk about the intimate fellowship that you have with God and create an atmosphere where the children also share their intimate fellowship that they have with God. There are endless things to do. Daily devotions and weekly Church attendance are very helpful in keeping the family open and growing in the grace of God. It is wise to attend at least one Church camp (retreat) per year.

Last updated: Dec, 2011

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