Contention -- Wise Sayings About Contention

A chip on the shoulder indicates wood higher up.

A compromise is a deal in which two people get what neither of them wanted.

A dogmatic person always has concrete opinions thoroughly mixed and permanently set.

A fool empties his head every time he opens his mouth

A good example of give and take is to take pains to give happiness.

A good listener is not only popular, but he learns while he listens.

A man too often shows his worst side to his better half.

A person who cannot lead and will not follow invariable obstructs.

A person who is wrong but won't admit it often gets angry.

A smile is a curve that can set many things straight.

A smile is a language that even a baby understands.

A wise man is one who learns from everyone.

Admitting that you could be wrong will sometimes open the mind of the other person to hear both sides.

Always hold your head up, but keep your nose at the friendly level. 

Always put your best foot forward--but don't step on other people's toes.

Be careful of the theories on which you bias your opinions.

Be careful of your thoughts; they may break into words at any time.

Be sure your conversation generates more light than heat.

Behind every argument is someone's ignorance.

Better to cause happiness where you go than to cause happiness when you go.

Beware of a half-truth; you may get hold of the wrong half.

Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, remains silent.

Choose your words carefully.  Talk is cheap, but you can't buy it back.

Despite inflation, a penny is still a fair price for too many people's thoughts.

Discussion is an exchange of intelligence.  Argument is an exchange of ignorance.

Do you try to be the first to point out that the other arguer doesn't have an open mind?

Don't answer a matter until you have paraphrased it back to the satisfaction of the other person.

Each side tries to be the first to point out that the other arguer doesn't have an open mind.

Facts are stubborn things, but properly used, they will work hard for you.

Failure follows the man whose wishbone is where his backbone should be.

Faults are thick where love is thin.

Few doors are open to him who knocks all of the time.

Flattery is often used to set you off balance.

Flattery, like perfume, should be inhaled and not swallowed.

Free expression is a safety valve.  Escaping steam alarms us, but is a sign of safety.  Let them pop off while you keep your cool.

Have tact, but not so much tact that you don’t make contact.

He is lonely who builds himself a wall instead of a bridge.

He lives most who lives for others.

He that inquires much learns much.

Heated arguments cool friendships.

Heated arguments cool relationships.

Holding a strong position often arouses strong opposition.

Ideas are like children: your own are very wonderful.

If we don't stand for something, we will fall for anything.

If you admit you're all wrong when you are, you're all right.

If you are losing an argument with your spouse, try a kiss.

If you learn how to use it, listening is more persuasive than speaking.

If you must criticize, leave the person with the idea he has been helped.

If you show people you're a live wire, they are less likely to step on you.

If you think that nothing should be done for the first time, you may be too cautious.

In an argument, the best weapon to hold is your tongue.

Intuition enables a woman to contradict her husband before he says anything.

It also takes two to make up after the quarrel.

It is better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot.

It's often the one with the winning hand who wants to put his cards on the table.

Make promises cautiously, but once you have made them, fulfill them.

Many people are like whales--when they get to the top, they start to blow.

Minds, like parachutes, work only when they are open.

Most arguments are sound--mostly sound.

Mud thrown is ground lost.

Never get mad at one who knows more than you do.  It's not his fault, but yours.

No one has a good enough memory to be a successful liar.  ~ <"" />Lincoln

No one is too big to be kind and courteous--but some are too little.

Nothing is opened by mistake as often as one's mouth. 

Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important.

One may not live by bread alone, but many try to get along on crust.

One of the most deadly of sins is cynicism.

One person cannot hold another person down without stooping.

People who get discovered and those who get found out are very difficult.

Poise is the act of raising the eyebrows rather than the roof.

Probably the best remedy for anger is delay.

Quite often you can prove your command of the language by saying nothing.

Self-confidence is essential to negotiation.

Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute.

Some go through life as freight.  They can't seem to express themselves. 

Some men never change their opinion because it's been in the family for generations.

Some people are like buttons--always popping off at the wrong time.

Some people get their exercise by jumping to conclusions.

Some people stand for nothing because they fall for everything.

Speak well of your enemies; remember that you made them.

Temper is so good a thing that we should never lose it.

The art of conversation includes the ability to disagree without being disagreeable.

The best way to be understood is to be understanding.

The chip on an angry man's shoulder is often only bark.

The fact that silence is golden may explain why there's so little of it.

The habit of getting to the bottom of things usually lands a man on top.

The less you say, the more you don't have to apologize.

The noblest revenge is forgiveness.

The person who knows everything has a lot to learn.

The right-of-way is not something you have--somebody gives it to you.

There is little that is more powerful than keeping your composure.

There is no substitute for brains, but silence sometimes helps.

There's a difference between free speech and cheap talk.

There's a difference between good sound reasons and reasons that sound good.

There's something wrong with a person who is always right.

Today, make an investment in someone else's happiness.

When a discussion turns into an argument, shift into neutral and fully understand the other person’s position.

When in doubt, do the friendliest thing.

When you are right you can afford to keep your temper.

When you open your mouth, your ears slam shut.

When your mouth is closed, you can't put your foot in it.

You are not fully dressed until you wear a smile.

You can never exercise an open mind and an open mouth at the same time.

You can sometimes dissolve dissention by listening to it and asking clarifying questions.

You can't antagonize and influence at the same time.

You can't expect people to see eye to eye with you if you look down on them.

You can't hold a man down unless you stay down with him. 

You can't keep a chip on the shoulder you put to the wheel.

You have poise if you can be ill at ease inconspicuously. 

You will never get indigestion from swallowing your pride.

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