|Courting & Dating -- Wise Sayings About Courting & Dating|
A debutante is a young girl with bride ideas.
A girl who is free for the evening could be very expensive.
If you love someone, you don't lead them to the edge of the proverbial cliff and risk their life or purity.
People who live together and/or engage in sexual relations outside of marriage, take part in what we call premarital sex. Have you watched TV or movies lately? The whole view of marriage is thwarted in media. It is the norm and completely tolerated for couples to live together before they are married, sometimes it is even encouraged. We use terms like, “make love” to describe sex before or outside of marriage. In popular shows we see that premarital sex is something a person does when they “love” the other person, with no mention of commitment or marriage. Without knowing it, this generation is faced with a decision to obey God’s Word or the world’s teaching. ~ Josh Robinson
And I think that’s the story of our generation’s pursuit of fulfillment in relationships. We wished for intimacy without obligation. We wished for sex with no strings attached. We wished for the pleasure of love with none of the work, none of the vows, none of the sacrifice. And we got it. But the results aren’t what we hoped for. And we’re left feeling emptier than before. The intimacy is superficial. The sex leaves us dissatisfied and hungry for something real, something true. ~ Joshua Harris
Sex in marriage is a gift from God--outside of marriage, it is cursed.
People usually look for “loopholes” in Scripture that they can use to rationalize their lifestyle, instead of looking at it for what it says. Josh Robinson
Now regarding the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:1
Lust and selfishness do not equal love.
Do you give yourself away, physically and emotionally, in ways that you regret later?
Where is true joy? It's found in God's brand of love--love founded on faithfulness, love rooted in commitment. the joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment. ~ Joshua Harris
Sinful and selfish people are the cause of sinful and selfish relationships ~ Joshua Harris
Trade-offs, choices, and consequences of actions are often not reversible. Look deeply enough to the cost.
Dating tends to skip the friendship stage of the relationship. ~ Joshua Harris
In a true friendship, you don't feel pressured by knowing that you "like" the other person or that he or she "likes" you back. You feel free to be yourself and do things together without spending three hours in front of the mirror making sure you look perfect. ~ Joshua Harris
C.S. Lewis describes friendship as two people walking side by side toward a common goal. Their mutual interest brings them together. ~ Joshua Harris
In dating, romantic attraction is often the cornerstone of the relationship. The premise of dating is "I'm attracted to you; therefore, let's get to know each other." The premise of friendship, on the other hand, is "We're interested in the same things; let's enjoy these common interests together." If romantic attraction forms after developing a friendship, it's an added bonus. ~ Joshua Harris
Just because lips have met doesn't mean hearts have been joined. ~ Joshua Harris
Just because two bodies are drawn to each other doesn't mean two people are right for each other. ~ Joshua Harris
A physical relationship doesn't equal love. ~ Joshua Harris
When we consider that our culture as a whole regards the words love and sex as interchangeable, we shouldn't be surprised that many dating relationships mistake physical attraction and sexual intimacy for true love. Sadly, many Christian dating relationships reflect this false mindset. ~ Joshua Harris
Sadly, many couples gauge the seriousness of their relationship by the level of their physical involvement. ~ Joshua Harris
Focusing on the physical is plainly sinful. God demands sexual purity. And He does this because He is holy. He also does it for our own good. ~ Joshua Harris
Physical involvement can distort two people's perspective of each other and lead to unwise choices. ~ Joshua Harris
God also knows that we'll carry the memories of our past physical involvements into marriage. He doesn't want us to live with guilt and regret. ~ Joshua Harris
Dating can distract young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future. ~ Joshua Harris
Dating may help you practice being a good boyfriend or girlfriend, but are these the skills we need for marriage? ~ Joshua Harris
Every relationship is an opportunity to model Christ's love. ~ Joshua Harris
Until you realize God's gift of your singleness, you'll probably miss out on the incredible opportunities it holds. ~ Joshua Harris
As a single, you have the freedom right now to explore, study, and tackle the world. No other time in your life will offer these chances. ~ Joshua Harris
There is no need to pursue a romantic relationship before you are ready for marriage.
The old attitude would say that intimacy feels good, so enjoy it now. But the new attitude recognizes that if two people can't make a committeemen to each other, they don't have any business pursuing romance. ~ Joshua Harris
If you're not ready to consider marriage or you're not truly interested in marrying a specific person, it's selfish and potentially very harmful to encourage that person to need you or ask him or her to gratify you emotionally or physically. ~ Joshua Harris
Sin: Acknowledging lies rather than Truth, so you step or slip off the narrow and restricted Way that leads to the genuine and absolute fullness of Life.
In God's eyes two married people become one. And as you continue to mature, you'll often crave the oneness that comes from sharing life with someone. Perhaps you feel that desire even now. Yet I believe that until we're ready to commit our lives in marriage, we have no right to treat anyone as if he or she belongs to us. ~ Joshua Harris
Sin will take you farther than you wanted to go faster than you thought possible, and will keep you longer than you wanted to stay, and will cost you more than you thought you would pay.
The old attitude says we can "play marriage" if we really love someone. But the new attitude views a claim on the other person's time, affection, and future before marriage as unwarranted. ~ Joshua Harris
Avoid placing yourself in situations that could lead to temptation. ~ Joshua Harris
Warning of deception: Little children, let no one or nothing deceive you; whoever does righteousness is righteous just as He [Jesus] is righteous. Whoever acts to wander from the path is of the devil; for the devil wanders from the path from the beginning. For this purpose the Mature Son of God was made visible: in order to demolish the works of the devil. Whoever is born of God does not wander from the path that leads to the absolute, genuine Life, for His seed remains in that person, and that person cannot wander from the path, being born of God. In this the children of God are plainly known, and the children of the devil: whoever doesn't do righteousness is not of God, and neither is the one who does NOT love his or her fellow believer. 1 John 3:7-10
Men will often deceive themselves by believing that the Ten Commandments condemn only adultery, leaving them free to have sex outside the bonds of marriage. However, the Law condemns all unlawful sex. First Timothy 1:8–10 tells us that the Law was also made for fornicators (those the Bible calls “whoremongers”). ~ Ray Comfort
Last updated: Nov, 2013
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