The family is a unit. There must be no division in the family. A few decades ago, someone made up a lie that they called, "the generation gap." There is no such gap in the Church. Those who have bought into this lie and who teach this lie to children are getting a curse to themselves. The family must not be divided. There should continually be a flow of the Anointing Oil of the Holy Spirit in the home from member to member. In raising a family, some fathers forget to tell their children that they are not part of the world, but they are a chosen people and a called-out people. They are called out of the world and out of the orders and systems of this present evil age. They live according to the order and the life of the age which is to come. They will receive persecution. They will find themselves in opposition against evil. They will not fit in with the world because they are not part of it. The father and mother must teach this by word and example continually from a very young age. Children of the King must know just how special and precious they are. Parents must teach them these things. "But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should show forth the praises of him who hath called you out of the darkness into his marvelous light:" 1 Peter 2:9.

Divorce is a tragedy, and God allows it only because of the hardness of the human heart. Anyone who has gone through a divorce will attest to the fact that it is not God's plan for us. God's plan in marriage is continued and progressive building each other up in the Spirit. If someone goes through a divorce, even if it is his or her own fault, there is forgiveness.

It is very natural for a wife to want to rule over the man. If you look at the curse given in Genesis 3:16, God said, "you will desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you." (NLT) This creates a conflict. The man is set by God to rule over the woman. The woman has a natural desire to control the man. As a man and woman walk in submission to the Holy Spirit, the rulership of the husband takes the proper form and is not coercive. The natural sinful nature of the wife to control begins to fade. Until that takes place, God uses this contention to work patience in the hearts of the husband and wife.

If you realize who you are and who your spouse is in Christ, this will become much easier.  We all need to discern and see the Body of Christ.  We see all the gifts, ministries, offices, and orders of the Church.  We also can discern and recognize the false.   When we see Him as He is, we become like Him.  He is a many-membered Body on Earth walking in submission the the Head in Heaven.